"I WISH I'D SAID THAT!"
Now You Will
ALWAYS KNOW WHAT TO SAY,
HOW TO SAY IT,
AND WHEN TO SAY IT...
NO MATTER HOW INTENSE THE SITUATION
NO MATTER HOW AWKWARD
NO MATTER HOW CONFRONTATIONAL
AND DEFUSE ARGUMENTS IN A MOMENT
WHAT I LEARNED THAT CHANGED EVERYTHING
Although I’ve been a lawyer, mediator, and peacemaker—and have facilitated 500-million dollar settlements---I am most proud of my work in the most violent prisons in the world.
This is where I train lifers and long-term inmates to stop prison violence as peacemakers and mediators. We have never had one of our paroled students re-offend.
In 2010, my colleague Laurel Kaufer and I began Prison of Peace in the largest, most violent women's prison in the world.
In the fifth week of training, we walked into the dingy conference room assigned to us. We were there a little early, and we saw one of our students sitting in a corner. She was quietly sobbing. We walked over, and Laurel knelt down next to her. "Sarah, what's going on?"
Sarah told us that she had been in prison for 18 years after killing a family of four because she “was a drunk driver and an alcoholic.” She gave up her baby boy to her sister to raise and wrote her son every week since she had been in prison—and had never heard back.
After the second session, she said she wrote him using our techniques, and “for the first time in 18 years,” she received a letter back from him.
It was angry, which she understood, but it was signed “I love you, Mom” and indicated that he and his girlfriend would visit soon.
Learn New Tools
Our clients (testimonials below) all discover the ability to control what formerly felt like uncontrollable situations in business and their personal lives.
New options for dealing with…
These tools are a gift that they share with others as they desire.
Our students gain new freedom as they empower themselves to respond to….
They know what to say, how to say it, and when to say it in any situation with utter confidence.
By developing some simple, easy-to-master skills, our students:
Our students always know what to say, how to say it, and when to say it, no matter what situation they face.
They report that they are seen as controlled, powerful, calm, and authoritative.
They tell us their personal lives transform too as they develop and practice their skills.
Here's What Students Tell Us About Their Experience
Some of Doug's techniques are simple enough that I was able to use them immediately, with profound effect. Additionally, his approach is helping me to conserve mental and emotional energy while navigating challenging interpersonal dynamics, which has been invaluable for this working mom. I highly recommend his training.
Your training has been the most profound life-changing I have ever put my time and effort into. I am a Clinical Psychotherapist graduating with high honors. My focus is cognitive rehabilitation with a specialty in neuroscience and brain injury. I tell you that only so you know I have read and studied a lot of material. I learned more from you than all my work in grad school in reference to seeing the big picture. Again, I just wanted you to know the impact you have made on my life and how grateful I am.
I watch the fear-based energy transform into something empowering. It's alchemy! I'm 66 with a stoic Scottish upbringing, and there are no good emotional tools in that world. So with the many buried angsts that I now can observe, it's more than amazing to watch these transform. With sublime respect and gratitude, Joy!
It works with Alzheimer's people, but in a deeper more fundamental way. They do not remember my words, but a feeling of connection and being heard. The evidence is in their behavior.
OMG Suddenly I know how important this course is for me. Your lesson that I watched tonight feels like the door is finally being opened to me. Thank you.
Many of our clients find that this course has saved them tremendous future costs and hardships, including:
Developing Emotional Competency
The basic course, Developing Emotional Competency, contains four modules.
Module 1: Introduction
You will learn about the course and what emotional maturity is all about. Just because we grow into adulthood does mean that we are emotionally mature.
Module 2: Emotions and Affect
Developing emotional competency requires you understand the science of emotions. We will do a bit of diving into neuroscience to understand what emotions are, why we have them, and how what happens in our brains and body creates complex emotional systems that we can learn to control.
Module 3: Affect Labeling
We will introduce you to the first deadly sin, emotional invalidation, and its antidote, affect labeling. When you are able to read the emotional experiences of others and reflect those experience back, you are well on your way to developing your emotional competency.
Module 4: Using Metaphors
Learn how to use metaphors as a tool of emotional reflection, and begin building your metaphor library.
The advanced course contains three modules
Module 1: Developing Self-Awareness and Self-Regulation
Our students develop emotional self-awareness and emotional self-regulation. They learn about and practice the five levels of self-regulation.
Module 2: Mastering Anger And Aggression
Our students learn about anger and aggression and how to respond to any angry situation while remaining calm. They dissect an intense couple's argument to understand and recognize the underlying anger dynamics.
Module 3: Advanced Skills
Our students master advanced skills on creating social power, using discursive positioning, and inoculating against anger.
Learn how to listen others into existence
The Basic and Advanced Develop Your Emotional Competency Courses together.
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30 Day Money Back Guarantee
If these courses do not exceed our students' expectations, we give a full refund anytime within 30 days after purchase. No questions asked.
About Doug Noll
Doug Noll is an award-winning author, speaker, and trainer.
Doug is the co-founder of the award-winning Prison of Peace Project. He has trained leaders in North America, Europe, the Middle East, and Asia in his innovative processes.
Doug's honors include California Lawyer Magazine Attorney of the Year, a Purpose Prize Fellow, and Best Lawyers of America Lawyer of the Year.
Our Students Are Respected, Influential, And Authoritative
BECAUSE THEY HAVE LEARNED HOW TO LISTEN OTHERS INTO EXISTENCE