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The Frustration of Not Being Taken Seriously

Anna was a smart, hard-working manager whose opinions were ignored in meetings.

She lacked influence and respect, leaving her frustrated and confused.

Seeking change, Anna came to us to develop her emotional competency.

She gained self-awareness, mastered emotional regulation, and learned to read others' emotions.

Soon, people listened to her, her boss valued her judgment, and she commanded meetings with calm professionalism.

 She gained respect, influence, and promotions.

This Story Can Be Yours With Some New Tools

There is a new set of tools, based on neuroscience, that will give you the confidence to face any situation, be heard, and be respected. 

And do this without becoming anxious or reactive yourself.

When you master this set of skills, you, like Anna, will be seen as a person of influence and authority, commanding respect from everyone around you.



Transform Your Life

By developing some simple, easy-to-master skills, you:

  • Become supremely confident
  • Have influence
  • Be heard
  • Gain respect
  • Make better decisions

You will be seen as controlled, powerful, calm, and authoritative.

You'll be able to master new challenges and handle everything that comes your way with grace and ease.

Your personal life will transform too as you learn how to listen others into existence.

Basic course

Learn the basics of emotional competency.

13 lessons.



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  • Immediate Start
  • Access to All Modules
Advanced course

The Basic and Advanced Courses together.

23 lessons.

($300 discount)



  • Lifetime Access
  • Immediate Start
  • Access to All Basic Course Modules
  • Access to the Advanced Course
  • Qualify for Private Group Coaching Membership
  • Access To New Lessons As Published
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Here’s what people are saying about the course


I just wanted to share with you an experience I had the other day when I reflected someone's emotional state back to them. I was in Target and was chatting with the cashier and asked how her day was going. She told me her day was not good and why it was not good. I got very quiet and still within myself, looked up at her and said, "You're fearful." The woman's flood gates opened and she started crying. When she was finished, I smiled, took her hand, looked into her eyes with complete acceptance, nodded to her, and left.

It also works with Alzheimer's people, but in a deeper more fundamental way. They do not remember my words, but a feeling of connection and being heard. The evidence is in their behavior. I'm not sure how long the effects are for them, but in the immediate behavior with early to middle stage Alzheimer's it seems to work thus far.

Jacqueline Thompson

OMG, I watched the intro last week which sparked my interest but I have just watched the next video (Unfolding our Human Potential) tonight. Suddenly I know how important this course is for me.
I have spent a lifetime studying human potential and have been perplexed as to why I personally continue to be fearful and struggle to implement the theories let alone be in the position to pass them on to others - even though I conceptually understand them.
Suddenly I can see that my own emotional competency was stunted at a very early age and I have yet to overcome this obstacle. I am stuck.
Your presentation that I watched tonight feels like the door is finally being opened to me. I already have a new understanding of affect labeling having seen it presented in this context and hopefully can begin to use it more consistently and more effectively.

Thank you.

Mike Bambrick

Hi Doug, I have been following you for more than a year and practicing affect labeling I have been also following the weekly Thurs teachings and sharings. I have such good deep results...mostly for myself in my studies. I take whatever emotion that besets me and observe it taking the journey to my frontal cortex. I watch the fear-based energy transform into something empowering. It's alchemy! I'm 66 with a stoic Scottish upbringing, and there are no good emotional tools in that world. So with the many buried angsts that I now can observe, it's more than amazing to watch these transform. With sublime respect and gratitude, Joy!

Joy Herhold

Learning So Much

Thank you for putting this out for us. You have truly moved humanity's efforts forward. You have helped move mine forward. This will be a gift I will pass on, hopefully, to thousands. I'm learning so much - even as I'm only going through the course quickly in my first run around the field.

Santhosh Ebroo Coach

The material on firmly held beliefs particularly blew me away. No wonder we have so much trouble communicating with each other! I do want to thank you for the course and what you have taught me. It has benefited me in a number of ways, including in my personal relationships. All the best,

Joe Garrett

I started working with Doug a few months ago in order to develop skills that would help de-escalate tension while sheltering-in-place with family. The techniques he teaches were very useful to that end. I have found myself incorporating them in many other situations as well, such as with patients and staff in the office, in dialogue with friends, and with my toddler son. Some of his techniques are simple enough that I was able to use them immediately, with profound effect. Additionally, his approach is helping me to conserve mental and emotional energy while navigating challenging interpersonal dynamics, which has been invaluable for this working mom. I highly recommend his training.

Elizabeth Arris LAc

I don't remember where or why I bought your book. However, it has been the most profound life-changing read I have ever put my time and effort into. I am a Clinical Psychotherapist graduating with high honors. I started my own clinical practice several years ago which is successful. My focus is cognitive rehabilitation with a specialty in neuroscience and brain injury. I tell you that only so you know I have read and studied a lot of material. Mr. Noll, your message was received with the utmost appreciation. Through your work, I am a much better person, therapist, mother, friend, wife, and all the other roles I play in life. This book should be a requirement for all clinical therapist to read. I learned more from your book that all my work in grad school in reference to seeing the big picture. Again, I just wanted you to know the impact you have made on my life and how grateful I am.

Tori Johnson

Dear Doug: I wanted to let you know just how powerful and useful I have found the affect labeling and other skills I learned from you. In fact, the most recent example occurred just this morning.

Mark Baer

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If, for any reason, these courses do not exceed your expectation, you can get a full refund anytime within 30 days after your purchase. If you have any issues, just get in touch with our friendly support team and they'll either help you out until you get the results you need or give you a swift refund.

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Developing Emotional Competency

The basic course, Developing Emotional Competency, contains four modules.


Module 1: Introduction

You will learn about the course and what emotional maturity is all about. Just because we grow into adulthood does mean that we are emotionally mature.


Module 2: Emotions and Affect

Developing emotional competency requires you understand the science of emotions. We will do a bit of diving into neuroscience to understand what emotions are, why we have them, and how what happens in our brains and body creates complex emotional systems that we can learn to control.


Module 3: Affect Labeling

We will introduce you to the first deadly sin, emotional invalidation, and its antidote, affect labeling. When you are able to read the emotional experiences of others and reflect those experience back, you are well on your way to developing your emotional competency.


Module 4: Using Metaphors 

Learn how to use metaphors as a tool of emotional reflection, and begin building your metaphor library.

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About Your Guide, Doug Noll

Doug Noll is an award-winning author, speaker, and trainer.

Doug is the co-founder of the award-winning Prison of Peace Project. He has trained mediators and leaders in Europe, the Middle East, and Asia in his innovative peacemaking and mediation processes.

Doug's honors include California Lawyer Magazine Attorney of the Year, a Purpose Prize Fellow, and Best Lawyers of America Lawyer of the Year.

Everything You Need To Know To Be Respected, Influential, And Authoritative