Inmate families, this is for you and you alone.
Imagine your inmate writing to you about this experience:
What I have learned is enormous. The listening skills alone have helped me a great deal. Just knowing there is an appropriate way to engage one another in conversation gives me clarity and confidence. They improve my relationships with friends, family, and strangers. I have learned to be quiet, wait my turn, and really listen to the person speaking to me. When I reflect back what they said, they actually feel listened to and the genuine conversation surfaces.
Last week, I was called an idiot and I felt disrespected by an inmate from our pod. Instead of firing back or getting physical, I recognized my feelings and emotions, waited long enough to set them aside, and responded with a calm voice and attitude with resolution in mind. As soon as I reflected back that he is really pissed and that I am an idiot, he quickly apologized for snapping at me and explained that he felt disrespected when I did not listen to what he had been trying to tell me. I, then, apologized for not listening (I did not mean to disrespect him) and told him that I would accept his apology and feel a lot better about the whole thing.
Listening, reflecting, clarifying and verifying works!
It is a typical response from one of the hundreds of lifers Laurel Kaufer and I have trained in Prison of Peace. Since 2010 starting at the former VSPW, we have expanded into 10 prisons, teaching lifers to be peacemakers and mediators. But we can’t reach every lifer or GP inmate personally.
The Skills of Prison of Peace Are Coming to Your Home
Now, I am bringing this knowledge outside the fences to inmate families at the request of the inmates themselves. My next book, De-Escalate: How to Calm and Angry Person in 90 Seconds, will be published by Beyond Words/Simon & Schuster on September 12, 2017. It is the distillation of what we teach in Prison of Peace. It is written for everyone, especially inmate families interested in learning how to have more peace in their lives.
You Can Make the Prison of Peace Skills Available to Your Inmate
I would like this book to be made available to as many inmates as possible. To make that a reality, I am asking inmate families to purchase two books. One to keep and use, the other to give to their inmate.
Buy Two Books and Gain Access to a Free Prison of Peace Webinar
If you buy two books between September 12-16, 2017, I will invite you to a free 90 minute webinar. In the webinar, you will get a crash course on the skills of Prison of Peace and learn how to use the book to bring peace into your life.
If you are interested, simply fill out the form below so I have a way of getting in touch with you. Thanks for your help.
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